“I’d like to see more couples making pornography together,” I found myself declaring on television. The show was The Agenda and its host, Steve Paikin, replied, “Sociologically, you mean. Right?” I laughed. “Well.…”

The topic was modern masculinity and I was responding to a couple of the panelists’ concerns that easy access to orgasm via online smut was making men less interested in making it with a real woman.

The deleterious effect of porn on relationships is something of a hot topic these days, although it’s certainly one that gets a new ride every once in a while. Notably, New York magazine recently ran a first person account – “He’s Just Not That Into Anyone” – from a man who felt he’d lost the ability to “finish” with a woman because of his daily porn consumption. Other men he’d talked to spoke of a decreased amount of sex with their partners after they’d become closer with this virtual “other woman” – or other women, I should say. Read More >>